How To Overcome Jealousy and Envy

How To Overcome Jealousy and Envy

"You can Overcome Jealousy and Envy by Focusing on You."


What exactly is Jealousy and Envy?  And why do we experience such intense emotions? 

We have all experienced Jealousy and Envy at some point in our lives. It can create a discomforting feeling within us and even distort our rational way of thinking. Sometimes, if we don't grab a hold and control this intense emotion, it can lead to lethal behavior and actions. What has been the cause of such behaviors? 

Perhaps someone at work received a promotion that you felt you were more deserving of...  Maybe, while you were out with some friends, and that cute guy or girl you really wanted to talk to, winds up connecting with your friend... The list goes on...

There are many scenarios where jealousy and envy are a significant factor in how others react and behave in situations. And ultimately why people act out in such ways, they never even thought they would.



First, let's look at the meaning of jealousy and envy. 

Jealousy is when a person experiences feeling threatened, fearful or resentment against someone because of that person's rivalry, success, or advantages. It could also be experienced when there's fear of losing a position or someone you love. Jealousy is the emotion you feel when you think someone's trying to take what's yours.  

Envy on the other hand is the deep longing and desire to have the possession that belongs to someone else. A person who experiences envy may feel a deep resentment toward the next person because he/she longs to possess what the other person has.

It's safe to say that the emotion of jealousy and envy are normal and we all experience it. But that's not the problem. The problem is what people do in spite of feeling Jealous and Envious of others. The negative actions that take place is what causes bigger problems.


But what if I told you that you can use the emotion of Jealousy and Envy as Fuel and Motivation to push you to move forward in your life? 



While in the beginning stages of my self-love journey, this is what the emotions of Jealousy and Envy has taught me when I truly got to the root cause of it.

Whenever I found myself feeling deeply jealous and envious of another person, I took the time to assess where and why the emotion was conjuring up within me. What I discovered was, those emotions were indicating a void and lack within me that wasn't fulfilled. And what I saw in others were things I wanted for me. Instead of getting angry and acting out destructively, I decided to use that rage to fuel and push me to attain my heart's desires. Ultimately, I made the choice to become the Best version of me and attain my heart's true longings and desires. 

As I've been on pursuit of Pursuing my Life on Purpose, I've realized a few things:

If I want it, I can go get it. I don't need to take, steal, or loathe the next person. I'm inspired by others who have the things I aspire to have. I've learned to network and connect with these individuals rather than fight and cause rivalry. It is in my best interest to remain humble, learn, work and grow. And in due time, I shall receive. 

With that mindset shift, I have been able to tackle and debunk the negativity that comes with the emotion of jealousy and envy and use it as a catalyst for change in my life. 


I had to learn to Love Myself and Focus on myself in order to trump the negative emotions that follow behind jealousy and envy.

Self-Love is the remedy that cures and dispels the negativity hoax followed by jealousy and envy.

Use jealousy and envy as Fuel and Motivation in your life, and see how you Change the game and Gain control over your own life! 




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Author: Tiffany Okieme

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